Tuesday, December 30, 2008

2008 In Review

Got this from my SNL's myspace... I thought it would be a change from my usual "Top 20" list!

-What did you do in 2008 that you'd never done before? Gave birth without drugs

-Did you keep your new years' resolutions, and will you make more for next year? Well... I resoluted to lose weight, and about the time I started doing that, I got pregnant. So, no, I guess. And, yes, I will make more for next year!

-Did anyone close to you give birth? Kimmy did, I did, Kathy did... lots of people!

-Did anyone close to you die? not extremely close to me.

-What countries did you spend time in this year? Just the US.

-What would you like to have in 2009 that you lacked in 2008? a year without being pregnant

-What dates from 2008 will remain etched upon your memory, and why? April 18th - major car wreck; November 6th - Baby Vince's birth

-What was your biggest achievement of the year? 9lb 6oz baby naturally!

-What was your biggest failure? spiritual laziness

-Did you suffer any serious injury or illness? The car wreck left me with a pretty wicked backache for a few weeks.. but other than that... no

-What was the best thing you bought? Berniece... our awesome station wagon!!!

-Whose behavior merited celebration? My parents, Linda, Lisa... and all of the other friends and family who helped us tremendously after our wreck

-Whose behavior made you appalled and/or depressed? I definitely felt at least irritated by a few person's behaviors, but those people don't deserve to have their names published on my blog.

-Where did most of your money go? to relieving debt and then savings!!

-What did you get really, really, really excited about? Our Babymoon and having a boy!!!

-Compared to this time last year, are you:
a) happier or sadder? much happier
b) thinner or fatter? fatter, unfortunately
c) richer or poorer? richer

-What do you wish you'd done more of? Prayer

-What do you wish you'd done less of? Eating sweets

-Did you fall in love in 2008? Yes... with my little Vince

-What are the main websites you used? Gmail, Facebook, Babycenter and Blogger

-What was your favorite TV program? Heroes or Biggest Loser

-Do you hate anyone now that you didn't hate this time last year? No way... I don't think I hate anybody.

-What was the best book you read? The Great Divorce

-What did you want and not get? A bigger bed and a better couch

-What was your favorite film of this year? Juno

-What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you? I turned 28, and I spent it with my family celebrating Christmas a little early.

-What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying? Having the wisdom to heal old wounds

-How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2008? Comfy and loose

-What kept you sane? My husband and my mom

-What political issue stirred you the most? Obama and the Born Alive Infant Protection Act

-Who did you miss? Sister Sophia Grace

-Who was the best new person you met? Esther

-Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2008: Don't take your health and well-being for granted, because you never know when something (like a giant SUV smashing into you) could take it away.

-What sums up this year? (a word, a quote...?) "Life is beautiful"

Sunday, December 28, 2008

A Festivus for the Rest of Us??

For those of you familiar with the sitcom Seinfeld, you may recall an episode or two where they speak of George's dad's self-created holiday Festivus. One of the aspects of this holiday is the "Airing of Grievances", which - if I remember correctly - means each person gets to tell the other guests just what they think of them and why.

This episode aired recently, and it made me think about what effect an "Airing of Grievances" might have on relationships.

I see two possible outcomes.

The first resulting possibility would be fighting. No one likes to hear why others are angry with them or why they've done something that offended someone else (especially if they're in denial that they've done it). Thus, many arguments would probably ensue, and it would be all around pandemonium. This is probably why there are many passive-aggressive people in our world. They figure it's better to silently punish their offender rather than actually break into an all-out argument with them.

However, the other possibility, (and actually how I envision an Airing of Grievances working in my family of origin) is that the airing of grievances actually FIXES problems. I think that too often people bottle things up or decide they're angry for a silly reason or would rather "keep the peace", and they actually end up making everything worse. From the majority of my life experience, I'd say things USUALLY get better when you're honest with someone. If you tell a friend or family member the complete truth (with tact of course) about why you're hurt, you clear up a ton of miscommunication and very frequently mend the relationship. I think, however, that it takes GREAT wisdom and humility on both the part of the person who is offended and the supposed offender to handle this situation in an adult manner. Most of us, including myself, probably aren't so great at being wise or humble when it comes to matters like this... but I still think getting stuff out of your system is way more likely to fix it than bottling it up and being angry forever.

Furthermore on this grievances topic, I'd like to say that I don't think EVERYTHING should be shared or discussed. For example, I don't think pet peeves belong in an Airing. I get really really annoyed at a lot of little stuff that people do, but most of it is WAY to small to even attempt to discuss with someone. My brothers pointed a couple of these "little things" out to me over Christmas when I was griping about some pet peeves, and they made me realize that I should probably just let it go instead of getting all cranky about it. And then there are other things - like disliking someone's haircut (Sorry, Joe) - that you probably shouldn't share, but it's okay to if you know the person you're talking to won't get too angry with you. :)

Okay... so I've finally officially blogged again. It felt like a lot of babbling, but that's how my inner-thoughts sound most of the time so welcome to my brain.

Merry Christmas!!!

Monday, December 01, 2008

My little Vince is a Catholic now!!

Along with all the other festivities happening this past weekend, little Vince got baptised. He cried the majority of the time because he was hungry and I could nurse him right then, but he did great when Father poured the water over his head. Welcome to the Catholic family, Vince!!