The infamous DTR
Do you all know what a DTR is? I first discovered this label in college, and I find it to be a useful tool. DTR means "Defining the Relationship."
It mostly happens within romantic relationships, but it can also occur in friendships and such things. Basically, to DTR is to sit down with that significant other and say "okay.. what are we... and why are we what we are?"
I have conflicting opinions on defining relationships. In once sense it brings a sort of peace to know that someone is officially dating you and only you. In another sense, we as humans tend to add so much pressure to the situation once it is defined as "exclusive".
Now, I'm not much one for dating more than one guy at a time... but it has struck me that I am not a big friend of committment right now. I'm too undecided about the direction of my life to be absolutely sure about anything. Although, it does help a lot to make God the center and the goal... cuz if I keep trying to reach Him... then I'm less likely to go wrong in the choices and committments I make, right?
Hmm. DTR. Perplexing.
Me Gustas Mucho
Today is gonna be the day that they're gonna throw it back to you. By now you should've somehow realized what you got to do. (With God's help, I guess I did.)
I don't believe that anybody feels the way I do about ya now. (That's a good sign that I'm on the right track)
And all the roads we have to walk are winding. (yep)
And all the lights that lead us there are blinding. (but pretty)
There are many things that I would like to say to you but I don't know how. (cept that you do... and you did)
Because BABY.... you're gonna be the one that SAVES me. And After all... You're my wonderwall. (I guess we'll soon find out)
I'll just leave you to ponder what this wonderful Oasis song has to do with the amazing weekend I just had.
I wish you all wonderfully wonderful weeks filled with many Signal Graces. God has been talking to me A LOT this weekend. Prayers actually do get answered pretty obviously if you ask specifically and humbly enough. :) :) :) :)
This Summer's Theme
So we've enjoyed the Winter of Love... suffered through the Spring of Heartache... and now comes Summer. What theme shall I give to this season of swimsuits, sunshine and fun with water?
You know, I've been pondering this for the last few days and it really hit hard last night. And once I stumbled across it... I knew it was right.
So without further ado... I welcome you, one and all, to....
The SUMMER of POSSIBILITIES
Many doors lay open before us... it is up to us to choose the one that looks most opportunitous (neat new word, huh?). :)
I, myself have not yet chosen a door. But I am surveying both paths and looking forward to the rest of the doors that shall open in the next few months.
Here's to the Summer of possibilities!!!
Serious Wisdom from a Fellow Blogger
Okay, so the other night at CALF (Catholic Adults Learning the Faith)... and yes, I did just rename our bible study :)... we were talkin about virtuous relationships and how the ultimate goal of any friendship or relationship is to strive to help the other person get closer to God. If you aren't doing that, then you are not being a true friend. Well, this discussion led us to touch on something that often comes up in relationshippy discussions... "Where is the line when it comes to your physical relationship?"
Well, I found the answer while reading Sarah's
recent post about cussing.
Here is your answer about what's okay to do before marriage... and I quote "'The question should not be, "How close to the line can I get?" Rather, the question should always be "How far away from the line can I stay? And how close to God can I get?'"
Wise, isn't it???
Thanks, Sarah. You ROCK!!!
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Has anyone else noticed the many bugs starting to appear again since winter has come to an end? I've been especially noticing the Bees.
In other news, Captain Caffeine and Officer Chocolate have mended my depression this week. Woo Hoo! Cept now I sorta feel like Pace Picante Sauce must feel (Extra Chunky). :)
Today someone at work saw me smiling for no reason and asked why. I then had to go into the whole thing about the "movie in my mind". More Info
and how I replay parts of my life to decide how they might be funnier or more dramatic. In the one that I was replaying at the time, one of our sales guys was walkin out the door and I just started screaming "No... we can't LIVE without you in the office for 2 days... YOU MUSTN'T GO." Plus I was flailing my arms dramatically in my mind. In reality, Scott left, and I said "See ya." with a small head nod. :) Go Figure
This Weekend's Headline
Woman suffers severe beating during wedding ceremony in Beloit this weekend
Monday, Wichita - Eyewitnesses say they saw a woman in her early 20's take a beating on Saturday during a Wedding reception in Beloit, KS. It seems her persuers-known only by the names of Loneliness and Confusion-had been following her for about a week, but she had avoided them by having a full schedule.
Witnesses say that Confusion struck first. He started poking and prodding at the young woman during the actual wedding ceremony. Some say she tried to avoid him, but his tactics were ruthless and cunning. Loneliness took his turn with the victim around the time of the Grand March at the wedding dance. It seems he likes to attack his victims when they have nothing else to occupy their time.
Neither of the persuers have been caught yet, but the officers in charge of the case, Captain Caffeine and Officer Chocolate are following all leads. "We are doing everything in our ability to maintain a happy disposition for the victim."
The victim was not available for comment, but friends close to the situation say the young woman is used to feeling this way about every 3 months, and she will soon recover.
Ode to Joe
Right, so being the horrible sister that I am, I completely forgot to wish my big brother Joe, a HAPPY BIRTHDAY last week. I apologize profusely and shall devote this post to you, crazy but fun oldest brother.
Why I think Joe is Cool
by Kristine Ann
1.) The Peanut Butter Incident: When stupid little Steve threw gum in my hair on the bus ride when I was in grade school, Joe spent the afternoon combing the gum out with peanut butter.
2.) His Future-telling Abilities: Joe informed me after high school that Joel, my boyfriend of almost a year, and I would not end up together. I did not believe him at the time, but about a year later... when Joel went to college... Joe's predictions came true exactly. He said college would change us and our relationship... and he was completely correct.
3.) Question everything: Because of our many intense religious discussions over the years, Joe has taught me to argue with the best of them and to KNOW my stuff.
4.) The strangling incident: So I usually use the time that Joe pretended to strangle me when I was about 7 against him.. but i'm sure somewhere inside my psyche, that particular incident caused me to be a tougher person... or at least less of a brat in the long run. Woo hoo for near death experiences! :)
5.) Setting the bar: Because of Joe, I took the ACT 4 times. Because of Joe, I wasn't able to even MAKE myself slack off in school. Because of Joe, I knew that being smart was a smart thing to be.
:) Thanks a ton for being a great big brother! I hope you had a great birthday on April 28th! I am sorry that I once again forgot... but if you want, you can count this not only as a belated birthday wish.. but also a REALLY EARLY ONE for NEXT YEAR! :)
Fun for One
So I saw this on my friend, Sara's, webpage, and I thought it was great fun. And so.. I shall do it myself:
A is for - Age: 23
B is for - Boyfriend/Girlfriend: not currently
C is for - Career: Radio network office person thing right now
E is for - Essential item: my computer so i can blog?
F is for - Favorite song at the moment: Mayberry
G is for - Guy/Girls you've kissed: 6 guys - Doug, Joel, Gary, Mark, Matt and Chris
H is for - Home: Wichita
I is for - Instruments you play: trumpet
J is for - Job title: hmm.. let's call me a Radio Administrative Support Person
K is for - Kill anything: I ran over a family of skunks once as they crossed the road in front of my car.
L is for - Living places: apartamento
M is for - Memory of the day: Alcohol at Abuelo's to celebrate Cinco De Mayo with Kim, Jose, Lisa, Alicia and Lucas.
N is for - Number of crushes you've had in the past week: 3
O is for - Overnight hospital stays: none that I recall.
P is for - Phobias: Arachniphobia... bleh spiders
Q is for - Quote you like: "Get busy livin.. or get busy dying."
R is for - Relationship that lasted the longest: Joel - 2 years
S is for - Shoe size: 9 and a half or 10
T is for - Time you wake up everyday: 6:30 ish
U is for - Unique trait(s): speaking alien, googly eyeing
V is for - Vegetable you love: asparagus
W is for - Worst habit: putting off prayer
X is for - X-rays you've had: teeth
Y is for - Yummy food you make: Lasagna, K&V's Sunshine Chicken
Z is for - Zodiac sign: Sagicorn (saggitarious/capricorn)
Here's the deal... I want you guys to play as well... so the first person to comment takes as many of the beginning letters as he or she wants starting with A and fills it out... second person picks up where the first left off.. and so on and so forth til we've been through the alphabet. :) If you feel like repeating a letter or two, I'm down with that. Please play my game.
It's been awhile...
Since the last time I posted, there have been few developments in the dramatic life of one Kristine Ann. I've made new friends and lost touch with old ones. Been happy and sad, angry and jubilant, unusually calm and characteristically crazy. All in all.. it's been just like everything else for the most part.
Today was a good day.. until I left work... and then, it sorta just went down hill. Work was fun cuz around 4 o'clock I found myself laughin HYSTERICALLY with a coworker about something that really wasn't all that funny... but work tends to drive us to deliriums around 4 pm... so today was not unusual.
After work I went to a meeting with a committee that I'm sitting on for a fundraiser. I rather disliked the meeting... and I think I do not want to help with said fundraiser any more at all. So I think I shall bail out.
Then I came home and watched a romantic comedy... "Love Actually"... which was good, and yet, unpleasant at the same time. The last time I saw a romantic comedy, I was quite surprised that I did not find myself lonely and depressed after it... however, this time was a different story. I'm not sure that I'm lonely and depressed, but I do very much miss romance and drama and crushing. Go figure. I was doing so well for awhile.
Which brings me to a question for you to comment about... do we use movies as a form of escape? Do they take us into a world that is not our own just so that we can get out of our own world for awhile? Are television and movies actually GOOD for our psyches... or are they just as bad as using alcohol or drugs or sex as a form of escape from the world? What think you?