Sunday, October 31, 2004

Ah... The Power of Cheese

wait... no... I mean "Ah... The Power of Clothing", but cheese is very yummy.

Anyhoo, to close this weekend of costuming fun, I'd like to blab a bit about the neccesity to dress well.

This weekend I decided to be a pink bunny for Halloween. And because of this costume, I've come to the realization that what we wear determines how we feel, potentially more than we could imagine. (Or, on the flip side, often how we dress is a reflection of how we feel.)

This weekend I put on pink fuzzy pants and an inside out pink sweatshirt... and I think I have never felt cuter. I think I felt the cutest I've felt in a really long time. I felt like smiling, and giggling, and acting silly all night. Just because I was fuzzy and pink on the outside... I felt fuzzy and pink on the inside.

And this had me thinking. On days when I go into work expecting to have to have "a talk" with my boss... I'm way more apt to dress professionally. On days when I just want to be fun and goofy in the midst of my work, I dress a bit more casually.

The same with going out. On nights when I'm just gonna be "me," I tend to dress more comfortably. On nights when I go out to be super-me or impressive-me... I had to dress a bit less comfortably and a bit more primped-like.

So... maybe my follow up questions is sorta a chicken/egg kinda deal. Does how you dress affect your mood OR do you dress how you do BECAUSE of your mood? And then... what does YOUR fashion say about YOU? ;)

P.S. I want to be a cute fuzzy pink bunny EVERYDAY!

Monday, October 25, 2004


So I was trying to do some research tonight to get an idea of what I'm going to teach at my young adult bible study thing on Wednesday... and I stumbled across something interesting. I haven't found the topic to present, but I just had to share this.

I was reading a website Q&A about distinguishing love from infatuation. (If you've read this blog for very long then you know that I have some serious problems with this.) Anyhoo... here's part of what I found. It is written to answer a guy's question, but it certainly applies for anyone I think.

So, how do you know if you love a woman? Pope John Paul II has answered this question perfectly by saying that "the greater the feeling of responsibility for the [beloved] the more true love there is."(1) The greatest example of this love is Christ. He alone perfectly reveals how to love a woman. If we ever need to know how to properly love a woman, all we need to do is look at a crucifix.

... This sorta brings me to the point that I've been thinking over lately: is love a choice or a feeling? I think it's both... but I think it DEFINITELY HAS to be a choice...

Thursday, October 21, 2004


So I got in a debate at work today about dating people that differ significantly in age. It started when one of my guy coworkers who is in his 50's was talking about how he's attracted to MUCH younger women.

I was trying to explain to everyone that if someone is young enough to be your child... then it's just WRONG to date them. But I couldn't figure out why I thought it was gross.

Then I was talking about the "dirty old man" syndrome and how it totally freaks me out when old guys hit on me. I think it's gross. And then one coworker asked me "Does it freak you out when older women date younger men?" And my answer was "not as much." But I still don't know why.

Anyhoo... what do you guys think? Honestly, I'm cool with dating someone within a decade of my age (this, by the way, does not include 10 years younger right now cuz they'd be 14 and that is gross)... but in general, I'd date a guy who was 32 or 33 I think and that doesn't freak me out. But 35 and up totally is icky.

Can love cross generation lines? What do you think? Is it okay to date someone who's in your parent's/child's generation?

Wednesday, October 13, 2004

So here's how I see it.

So time is ticking away and the election will soon be upon us. This is one of the first years that I have seriously jumped all the way into these debates. (And by jumped all the way in, I mean I've yelled at the television, sighed in disgust, argued the ignorance of points made, etc.)

Now, I must admit, when it comes to political smarts... I do not have a lot of them. I couldn't tell you how Bush's administration has handled health care or education or social security. And I certainly couldn't tell you what I think is the best way to go about those things.

I have key issues that I understand for both sides. But, especially in tonight's debate, I noticed that I am much more attracted to the candidate with convictions, the candidate with emotions, the candidate with stalwart beliefs.

Tonight it seemed that Kerry was trying to "win the crowd." ... He has beliefs, but he won't impose them. He has a Health care plan... but "if you don't want it, you don't have to take it... if the states don't want it, they don't have to use it." He says he's for something... he votes against it or doesn't vote at all. He says he's Catholic "I was an altar boy"... and yet the man doesn't even believe in protecting the sanctity of life... and our teeniest citizens who do not even have a voice. He is PRO, not only abortion, but PARTIAL BIRTH ABORTION. He "stands for life" (as he said last debate), and yet he supports killing children for embryonic stem cell research, he supports a woman's ability to kill her own baby.

I truly believe that he's trying so hard to play the field and make everyone happy, that he doesn't have a solid idea of what he believes is right for this country... or one iota of a plan of how to get us there at least. How can he be a leader if he doesn't have any true solid and unfaltering beliefs?

I would like someone to explain to me what Kerry has to offer to this country. Yes, I've made up my mind. And I know who I'm voting for. But I would honestly like to know (from any of you who are pro Kerry or at least undecided) what positives have you found in Kerry as President?

I honestly do NOT understand how 48% of this country could support him... and I WOULD like to know.

So even if you must post anonymously... can you give me some clue what you're thinking?

Sunday, October 10, 2004


Well, folks, today marks the 1-year anniversary of my little part of the world wide web. The year has held many ups and downs, frequent postings and not so frequent postings, heated discussions and lack-o-readers, but it's been one heck of a year nevertheless!

To celebrate this year, I'd like to share with you my 12 favorite posts of the year. I didn't have a particular reason for picking any of them, but they were the ones that just seemed to jump out at me. So have fun reflecting with me if you wish...

1) The Strata - 10/20/03

2) The Red Zone - 10/23/03

3) The Romance Quiz - 11/13/03

4) Twenty-two In Review - 12/16/03

5) Woe is Me and These Silly Crushes - 01/12/04

6) Hampsters In My Head - 01/29/04

7) Welcome to the Cinema - 02/15/04

8) Ash Wednesday - 02/25/04

9) Newsworthy Beating - 05/10/04

10) 15 Random Facts and Updates - 06/03/04

11) Road Trip - 07/01/04

12) Little Miracles - 09/16/04

Monday, October 04, 2004

Here's something wierd...

So if any of you have been reading this blog for awhile... then you probably remember what it was like a few months ago. And for that matter what it was like up until a few months ago. I think probably every third post or so (if not more than that) was about a boy or a crush or some such blather that I was all caught up thinking about. What has happened? Have a matured? Have I given up on guys? Have a found the one? Am I too busy to be concerned?

No.. Nuh uh... definitely not.... maybe a tiny bit but mostly no.


Wichita is Dateable-guyly challenged.

My city is lacking in elligible bachelors who are not complete jerks. Now, I'm quite sure there are SOME good Christian men in this town, but I haven't the foggiest idea where to find them.

Any suggestions?

And for that matter... I shall continue this train of thought over at Little Blue House